If you believe you’re lacking discipline, you’re not alone. But here’s the twist—discipline might not be your actual problem. The truth is, most people who struggle to follow through aren’t short on willpower. They’re short on desire.
Let me guess.
You’ve been telling yourself you need more discipline.
More consistency.
More willpower.
More of that “morning routine” magic.
If you believe you’re lacking discipline, you’re not alone…
You’ve been stacking productivity apps, planners, and courses…
Hoping one of them finally fixes you.
And still — you don’t follow through.
You start strong.
Then stall.
Then scroll.
Then shame yourself for not being “disciplined enough.”
But here’s the truth no one told you:
You don’t have a discipline problem.
You have a desire problem.
Let’s talk about it.
The Myth Behind Being Labeled as Lacking Discipline
People think I’m disciplined because I’ve been consistent for years.
I write. I launch. I coach. I scale.
But discipline isn’t what keeps me going.
Desire is.
I want the results.
I crave the outcome.
I burn for the freedom, the simplicity, the impact.
I wasn’t lazy — I was misaligned. That’s why I kept lacking discipline no matter what system I used.
And because that’s true?
I don’t need to “force” consistency.
It flows from desire — not duty.
You don’t need more structure.
You need to want something badly enough that not doing it feels worse than doing it.
Why Forcing It Doesn’t Fix Lacking Discipline
Let me take you back to the time I was trying to force it.
Wake up at 5AM.
Cold showers.
Write 1,000 words by 7AM.
No distractions.
No excuses.
That lasted… 3 days.
Not because I was lazy.
Not because I didn’t care.
But because I was trying to discipline myself into doing something I didn’t truly want.
Most of us feel like we’re constantly lacking discipline, but in truth, we’re just disconnected from what we actually want.
Here’s the problem with trying to “discipline” your way through misalignment:
If the work doesn’t matter deeply, no system will save you.
You’ll always find a way to skip it.
Procrastinate it.
Resent it.
And worst of all — shame yourself for it.
Your Body Knows When You’re Lying
Ever wonder why certain tasks light you up, while others feel like dragging your soul through wet cement?
It’s not random.
Your body knows when you’re doing something that matters.
And it knows when you’re doing something because you think you “should.”
Trying to copy someone else’s strategy is a recipe for lacking discipline and burnout
Desire creates energy.
Obligation drains it.
Psychologists say that when we pursue goals we don’t care about, our bodies shut down.
You can fake discipline for a while.
But you can’t fake desire.
Not for long.
How Desire Solves the Problem of Lacking Discipline
Let’s break this down.
When you truly want something:
- You make time for it (without being told)
- You obsess (without needing reminders)
- You finish (without a checklist)
Desire creates energy. And energy erases the need to worry about lacking discipline
Think about falling in love.
You didn’t need a planner to text them back.
You didn’t need a calendar reminder to think about them.
Desire drove you.
Now imagine if your business felt like that.
It can.
But only if you stop pretending you want things you don’t actually want.
False Goals: The Hidden Cause of Lacking Discipline
Here’s where most of us go wrong:
We chase goals we don’t actually care about.
We copy someone else’s vision.
Follow someone else’s business model.
Aim for someone else’s lifestyle.
And then we wonder why we can’t “stay disciplined.”
Of course you can’t.
You’re trying to force yourself to build someone else’s dream.
Desire doesn’t show up for things that don’t belong to you.
My Own Wake-Up Call (AKA: The Burnout Month)
There was a month — a few years ago — where I hit my “goal.”
Revenue: highest it had ever been.
Team: smooth.
Funnels: converting.
Audience: growing.
And I hated every second of it.
Because I had built a machine that looked like success…
But felt like a prison.
I didn’t want what I had built.
Which meant I couldn’t keep showing up for it.
Not sustainably.
Not joyfully.
Not honestly.
So I burned it down.
What I Built Instead
I stopped doing what “worked.”
I started doing what mattered.
Smaller offers.
Deeper coaching.
Less content.
More impact.
Slower growth.
Bigger peace.
And guess what?
I didn’t need a checklist to show up.
I didn’t need “discipline.”
I wanted it.
And that made all the difference.
Check Yourself: Questions to Uncover What You Really Want
Let’s get brutally honest.
Take a deep breath.
Then answer these:
- If no one could see your results, what would you still want?
- What goal drains your energy every time you think about it?
- Which part of your “dream life” is actually just someone else’s dream?
- What would you work on even if it took years to pay off?
- If you trusted your desire — not the algorithm — what would you do next?
These answers?
They’re your map back to you.
You Don’t Need More Tools. You Need More Truth.
Let’s be real.
You don’t need:
- Another time-blocking app
- A new planner
- A more aggressive morning routine
- A 5-step productivity hack
You need a moment of radical honesty:
What do you actually desire — deeply, wildly, unapologetically?
Because when you’re in love with the why?
The how becomes obvious.
And the discipline?
Mostly unnecessary.
The Real Strategy Nobody Talks About
Here’s what actually works:
- Want it.
Like, really want it.
Not “it would be nice.” But “I can’t not do this.” - Trust your wanting.
Even when it’s inconvenient.
Even when it looks “less strategic.” - Build around desire.
Make your work irresistible — to you.
Make the process as enjoyable as the outcome. - Stay honest.
If your desire changes, let it.
You’re allowed to evolve.
That’s it.
Want it.
Trust it.
Build with it.
Adjust when needed.
Desire is the fire.
Everything else is just kindling.
What To Do Next (Yes, Today)
Here’s your quick desire re-alignment practice:
- Write down your top 3 goals.
- Next to each one, write: Do I actually want this — or just think I should?
- Circle the one that feels most honest.
- Spend 30 minutes today moving toward that one.
No system.
No hacks.
Just movement — powered by desire.
Final Words on Breaking Free From Lacking Discipline
If you’re tired of fighting yourself…
If you’re tired of wondering why you can’t “just stay disciplined”…
If you’re secretly terrified that you’ll never follow through…
Stop blaming your discipline.
And start questioning your desire.
Because the truth is:
You don’t need to become more disciplined.
You need to become more honest about what you actually want.
Desire changes everything.
It makes work light.
Movement easy.
Results inevitable.
So if you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re constantly lacking discipline… it’s not your fault. It’s your signal. Follow it.
You’re not broken.
You’re just bored with building things you don’t actually want.
Start there.
Let that honesty rebuild everything.
You in?